The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel – This explores why people cheat, the deeper meanings of affairs, and what they reveal about relationships. Good for understanding behaviour beyond “just the sex.” (deepconnectionscounseling.com)
After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring – Focuses on the aftermath of infidelity, the work of rebuilding trust and healing the relationship. (The Therapist's Bookshelf)
The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It by M. Gary Neuman – Specifically addresses men’s infidelity: motivations, patterns, prevention and repair. (Wikipedia)
Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting® Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair by Michele Weiner‑Davis – A step-by-step guide for couples (and the unfaithful partner) to work through the crisis and move toward healing. (Affair Healing)
- I Can’t Get Over My Partner’s Affair: A resource that acknowledges how persistent the pain can be, and gives tools for the “I’m stuck” feeling.
- The Gift of Infidelity: Healing Self‑betrayal & C‑PTSD: Delves into how infidelity can trigger trauma responses (including C-PTSD) and how you might heal the self-betrayal aspect (“How could I have let this happen?”).
- Shattered Vows: Hope and Healing for Women Who Have Been Sexually Betrayed: Specifically geared to women who’ve experienced sexual betrayal; validates the unique pain and gives hope for healing.
- Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy: A somewhat older classic, helpful for understanding the phenomenon of infidelity, betrayal of intimacy, loss of trust. (Wikipedia)
- Rebuilding Trust After Betrayal: Hope and Help for Broken Relationships: More focused on the “what now?” after trust is broken—helpful regardless of staying or leaving. (aplaceofhope.com) Healing Intimacy After Betrayal: Deals with the relational/intimacy consequences of betrayal—not just the event itself, but how to re-connect (with oneself or another).
NOT Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity: Good for understanding emotional betrayal and rebuilding trust more than just going back to “business as usual”.
Healing the Trauma of Infidelity: Powerful Skills for Rebuilding Trust and Attachment to Find Love, Commitment, and Intimacy Again: Focuses on the trauma dimension and how to rebuild attachment—important if you will consider reconciliation.
Attachment
How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage by Milan & Kay Yerkovich
