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Monday

Deconstructing Conservative Christianity

"YOUR FAITH IS YOURS - NOBODY ELSES. Made this video by request of several people who are asking for direction. The truth is never afraid of scrutiny. Questions are not sin or rebellion. And faith requires doubt. The opposite of faith is certainty. And certainty is far more dangerous than doubt."

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Tuesday

Neurodivergent at Work

 The Canary Code: A Guide to Neurodiversity, Dignity, and Intersectional Belonging at Work 

Ludmila Praslova writes specifically about neurodivergence in organizations and how workplaces misunderstand difference.  


Quiet Autism at Work: The Late-Diagnosed Woman's Guide 

Focused on masking, workplace authenticity, burnout, and navigating professional environments after late diagnosis.


The Inclusive Workplace: A Neurodivergent Employee's Guide 

Practical workplace-focused guidance on accommodations, communication, self-advocacy, and reducing masking pressure.


A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD 

Validation-heavy ADHD book for women focused on self-acceptance, confidence, boundaries, and communication.


Say What You Really Mean!: How Women Can Learn to Speak Up 

Helpful for women who struggle with authority dynamics, indirect communication, overexplaining, or self-silencing in professional settings.


Is That Clear?: Effective Communication in a Neurodiverse World 

Focused on how neurodivergent and neurotypical communication styles differ and how misunderstandings develop in workplaces.



Inner Child Work


Monday

Childhood Neglect


ACA or ACOA - Adult Children of Alcoholics

 Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families (ACA) defines a dysfunctional family as one in which emotional safety, consistency, and healthy boundaries were absent or unreliable. In these families, children often grew up adapting to chaos, emotional neglect, addiction, mental illness, or rigid control rather than being supported in developing a secure sense of self. ACA emphasizes that dysfunction is not limited to families affected by alcohol use; it also includes homes where feelings were minimized, needs were unmet, roles were distorted, or authentic expression was unsafe. As a result, many adult children carry survival-based patterns—such as hypervigilance, people-pleasing, emotional withdrawal, or self-criticism—into adulthood, often without recognizing their origins in early family dynamics.

CA Fellowship Text, or “Big Red Book” (BRB), is the core guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics. Written anonymously by members, it adapts AA’s Twelve Steps to address the lasting effects of childhood trauma and dysfunction. The BRB offers hope, understanding, and tools for healing, helping adults overcome harmful survival traits and build healthier relationships.

We were all profoundly affected by the dysfunction
We were all profoundly affected by the dysfunction
A New Hope: ACA Beginner’s Handbook is a clear, structured guide for newcomers to Adult Children of Alcoholics, combining essential program tools, topic summaries, engaging questions, and core ACA materials. Designed to reduce overwhelm and support early recovery, it helps individuals begin healing from childhood trauma, connect with others, and prepare for deeper program work.
Connections is a practical ACA guide to understanding and building healthy support relationships in recovery. Born from a request to clarify the roles of fellow travelers and sponsors, it expands into insights on trust, boundaries, and mutual responsibility. Offering guidance for both seekers and supporters, it helps navigate challenges, strengthen connections, and foster meaningful healing relationships.
We were all profoundly affected by the dysfunction
We were all profoundly affected by the dysfunction
The Loving Parent Guidebook is a practical ACA resource for learning to “become your own loving parent” and reclaim your inner child with gentleness, humor, and respect. Structured in four parts, it guides readers from awakening the loving parent to deepening reparenting skills, building a loving inner home, and making reparenting a way of life. With fellowship shares, reflective exercises, guided practices, and creative activities, it offers tools for personal growth and healthier relationships in all areas of life.
Strengthening My Recovery is a daily meditation book for Adult Children of Alcoholics, offering 365 reflections paired with quotes from the ACA Fellowship Text. Written by and for the fellowship, it provides daily inspiration, insight, and encouragement for healing and growth.
We were all profoundly affected by the dysfunction
We were all profoundly affected by the dysfunction
The Laundry Lists Workbook expands on the “Other” or Opposite Laundry List from the ACA Fellowship Text, offering concise questions to help adult children revisit and process episodes of shame, guilt, anger, and other effects of childhood trauma. It provides a structured path for healing, breaking patterns of emotional intoxication, and fostering lasting recovery.
The Twelve Steps of Adult Children Workbook is a comprehensive guide for working the ACA Twelve Steps through detailed exercises and questionnaires. Designed for use in one-on-one Fellow Traveler (sponsorship) relationships or group study settings, it offers practical tools to deepen self-awareness, address the effects of childhood trauma, and foster lasting emotional recovery. This workbook supports members in applying the Steps to real-life experiences, building healthier relationships, and nurturing personal growth.
We were all profoundly affected by the dysfunction
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Wednesday

Astrology Books



Astrology for Yourself: How to Understand And Interpret Your Own Birth Chart: George, Demetra, Bloch MA, Douglas: 9780892541225: Amazon.com: Books


















 

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